Do you find yourself, like most, pondering this to yourself once the dust settles and the damage has been done? I mean at this point, you are probably laying on the bed staring at the ceiling and thinking to yourself about what you could have done differently to prevent this from happening.
You’ve been thinking all night, and you have devised a plan for getting her back and making things the way they were before. You might send her a text apologising, instead of calling you are gonna write her a four-page letter.
Now, don’t take this the wrong way, but doing any of the above is in the end simply a waste of time. First, because with all of us, breaking up is extremely emotional. At this point, they are riding a wave of emotions, not knowing how she feels and possibly not knowing what led to you guys breaking up in the first place, you may not even know! So, trying to figure out what happened right now is just going to continue to drain you.
Step one to understanding how to get back with your girlfriend is focusing on other things besides the relationship. Forget about you and her for awhile. Your mind needs to clean out. Go out and have some fun with your friends, meet some new people. Have fun and be merry.
This is the time to make changes in your personal life. You need time away from your ex, to the tune of a couple of months, believe it or not having this space will help out big time!
Taking time away from the relationship is an effective strategy because it’s giving you the time you need to make necessary changes. After a few months have passed, from using this method you will have a better understanding of relationships. You may even have a better outlook on how you want to move forward with her.
Evaluate how you want to handle things. Are you ready to go? Do you want to make things work with her? If you want to make things work with her, now is the time to figure out how she’s feeling about you and the relationship.
Ok, this is the time to make a move, but a strategic move. Stay away from being emotional, and do not beg! You have to play it cool and smooth.
Assuming you have acted accordingly and have taken a couple of months break from her, odds are she’s missing you just as much as you are missing her. You need to show her that you’re making it okay without her, even play hard to get, (but not too much). This may shock her, but it will give her insight to rethink making things work.
If it is meant to be, this is the time when you will find out. Don’t over analyse, jump the gun or assume the worst, because making an emotional assumption or decision at this point can hinder you from figuring out how to get back with your girlfriend. Take things slow, be cool, calm and collective, and you should be good to go.
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